Whether we like it or not, weddings are an unavoidable part of our culture. They make us laugh, make us cry, make us undoubtedly question our relationship (or lack thereof) and are a very emotional time for everyone involved. Some items are crucial for surviving this time.

Tissues: You think you’ll be fine, you think you won’t need them, but let me tell you that you are probably wrong. If you don’t end up needing them, someone around you might. And nothing kills the romantic vibe more than mascara and snot being all over your face. Whether this is caused by a touching moment or your depression of being alone, take a packet (or whole box) of tissues.

Mints/Candies: While this may same a little more far-fetched, it always takes the wedding party longer to return to the reception than expected. There will be delicious food and a big, beautiful cake and you’re not allowed to eat any of it. You will be glad you have something to munch on and a way to divert your attention from all of the people around you that you don’t know. But don’t worry, the bride and groom will be back soon. Or eventually.

Comfortable Shoes: If you’re thinking about wearing those cute six-inch heels you paid $60 for and only wore once, let me stop you now. There will be walking more than entering and exiting the building and you will regret wearing shoes that pinch your toes or kill your ankles. Also, there is a high chance that there will be dancing after the meal. Knowing that, why would you intentionally wear shoes that will leave you planted in your seat, full and bored? Or bleeding onto a pretty dance floor? Don’t do this to yourself!

Your gift: This may seem obvious, but let me tell you this is often forgotten. Maybe you forgot to buy a wedding present, maybe you put it off and didn’t get up early enough to buy one the day of, or maybe you remembered everything. You bought it off of the registry like a responsible person, you wrapped it in pretty, white paper, put a bow on it, and pretty tag and attached a card. Then left it at your house. Yes, you can give them the gift later or mail it to them, but you will be distracted for the whole wedding because of this. Don’t forget!